Pozy and Pete demonstrate how to apologize — and forgive.
Two important skills we both need right now.
Have a Graceful Day.
Harper, Pozy, and Resilience
Nine is a Big Birthday for a Berner. I wish that wasn’t true but I also wish the pandemic would go away and that has not happened either.
Harper B for Big Birthday reports that nine feels just like every other wonderful, happy time in her life (which is every minute of every day).
She is healthy, sound, active, and in all ways her usual energetic and kind self.
She celebrated with her very own birthday walk — and even made her own birthday crown.
.Pozy spent the Big Birthday having a really BIG playdate…
That is a six-month-old Irish Wolfhound!
At first, the thought bubble over Pozy’s head read, “OH MY HECK. What the fork are you?!”
Pozy could escape by going behind the hot tub.
We were careful.
Daisy came along to play first and make sure the 97-pound puppy would be appropriate with a smaller dog. But Jamison was completely awesome and nice — what a great temperament he has — and soon the two puppies were fast friends.
And I do mean fast…
At four-months-old, it is important that Pozy have these kinds of novel experiences. It is through the successful navigation of Novel that a puppy develops confidence.
It is the job of humans to ensure that the novel experience has a positive impact — not a negative one.
And only the puppy can tell us if the experience is positive or negative — it doesn’t matter if we think the puppy should or should not be able to handle something. Concern — like beauty — is in the eye of the beholder.
Sometimes we cannot control things and the puppy has a bad experience. This was the case yesterday.
The first Bad Thing involved Pete the Cat. He took offense at something Daisy said and suddenly those two were acting like political candidates in a debate.
Pozy went over to see what was happening and Pete, apparently recognizing he was outsized by Daisy, went after Pozy. Unlike Chris Wallace, Pozy took off running and crying with Pete the Bully in hot pursuit.
I turned off his mic in a big fat hurry and Pete spent the day shamed and outside.
Pozy, however, was shaking and upset. She doesn’t understand Bullies and Betrayal — Pete is usually her friend!
Cuddles and treats and etc. and soon she was fine again.
Until she wasn’t.
Because it wasn’t enough to be assaulted by a cat, two hours later Pozy was attacked by HORNETS when we went outside to see what Dear Husband was doing. He was, apparently, disturbing a hornets’ nest.
Not Murder Hornets as she is alive but crazed, cold hornets who took refuge in Pozy’s plush, warm coat and then ungratefully stung her repeatedly.
Pozy was yelping in pain, and frantic because she had no idea what was going on. The hornets I could get out of her coat were flying around the house, the puppy was crying and trying to get away from the ones still in her coat, and basically it was a terrible example of a novel experience for a puppy in every possible way.
We cannot control everything.
Benadryl and more cuddling — and then a long nap.
We bank good experiences to build confidence and resilience so that when the bad experiences happen, we can bounce.
Pozy is a bouncer. She is just fine.
But does it seem somehow unfair that on top of EVERYTHING, bullies and hornets are still operating in the world? Isn’t a pandemic enough?
Two resources for you today:
A great read on how to build your own resilience so you can bounce like Pozy.
A webinar about loss and life in the pandemic/what helps that I recently did for professionals/students.
Stay well and bouncy.
Auggie is NINE!
Lois sends us an update on Newly-Nine Auggie:
“Nine years later he is still keeping us entertained and loved.
The old man is in pretty good health. We actually have had only a couple of night terrors during the last seven months of the pandemic. Maybe he thought enough was enough after all! He loves his time in the forest and is still active although he lets us know it’s time to go home a little quicker than he used to.
I think the biggest gift of the pandemic has been that we have been with our boys and each other 24-7.
I remind myself that our time with our furry ones (and each other) is short and finite so we relish the time we have to spend together without work or travel interruptions.
Both boys are looking forward to this stuff returning! This was from early in the quarantine time. I am realizing that we will have gone through all four seasons by now and are no closer to having the pandemic under control. Well, Gus and Auggie do not care!
Auggie wishes Happy Birthday to his sisters Harper and Heidi, a sad farewell to his brothers Zeke and Holden Squeaker who left us this year and a remembrance to his sisters Lainey and Mesa who both left us too early. We as the human caretakers for these special beings know that any time they leave is too early for us.”
Thank you, Lois — and HAPPY BIRTHDAY, AUGGIE!