Life in Montana

I am pleased to share that we FINALLY have a reasonable budget for the repair caused by the Dishwasher Fiasco of 2019.

To give you an example of how this all works, the insurance company originally sent their guy out to assess the damage and as a result, they decided the Replacement Cost of the custom oak kitchen cabinets was $4,570.29.

This amount was only to pay for the damaged bottom cabinets — apparently they expected that we would just keep the original cabinets on the top.

My new friend, Dale, from Linley Cabinets (they installed the original cabinets in 1986) said there would be no way to match the upper cabinets with new ones, they could not be painted, and sanding/staining would cost more than new cabinets.

And so Dale provided the amount it would cost to replace all the cabinets in the kitchen with the same features and like-product.

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I sent that off to the insurance company person, explaining about how we needed upper and lower cabinets replaced and why — and after two phone calls and a few weeks of waiting, the amount was approved!

This had to be done with EVERYTHING.

But we have a good adjustor who obviously has construction experience/knowledge, and all bids/estimates were approved — it was just a lot of hoop jumping, which is definitely not my favorite way of doing things.

It has been two months and two days since we had a kitchen but we meet today with the contractor, and should be able to get started on the reconstruction soon.

Nevertheless, she persisted. The Squeaky Wheel is reinforced yet again.

In other news, Sabbatical is over. When walking back to my office from getting a coffee yesterday after class, I took this photo with my phone. I thought it was just a pretty shot of the campus building but it turned out to be a Love Note — do you see?

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How awesome is that?!

And the answer to the Claire Question is still NOPE.

Excuse Talk

My new part-time job is managing all things reconstruction. I imagine this is like herding really slow cats — who need frequent naps.

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Last Thursday I marched into two different offices because a week had gone by and I did not hear back as expected. Time was up — I needed some answers!

I got two very different responses.

Response #1: A phone call. Overly friendly voice, stated he had left a message last week — but did not remember which number — and quickly moved to setting up a time to come out.

I am a professor and have been for a long time. I know Excuse Talk when I hear it.

I went home and pulled up phone records on the computer. I checked my phone and Dear Husband checked his.

Nada. Nothing. No message from that person, the voice mail boxes were not full, and no phone call from his number.

I called the Regional Manager of the company and invited him to investigate since perhaps there was a logical explanation — but under the present circumstances, I told him, I was not comfortable working with their company any more.

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Response #2: Receptionist grabbed the human involved — and he simply apologized for not getting back to me.

I will continue working with that company — they are trustworthy.

We see Excuse Talk in Life with Dogs. In fact, Berner-Garde will include Excuse Talk in individual dog records. You can spot it because it is listed as anecdotal and it usually strains credibility.

For example…

  • A pattern of anecdotal entries from breeder along the lines of “puppy played rough…” to explain known-to-be-inherited orthopedic problems.

  • Anecdotal entry that explains dog was frightened by fireworks (bitten by ant, had this or that drug, ate the wrong food under the wrong phase of the moon, etc.) and that caused her to develop XXX condition.

Excuse Talk is easy to do and it is understandable — we so want there to be an explanation that does not require us to face hard truths. I get it.

And we so want to believe the Excuse Talk of others — because recognizing that someone we care about (or need!) is a complicated and maybe not-all-that-honest human being is rough. And so we just let the Excuse Talk slide. It is just easier that way.

But Excuse Talk is more than an innocent tall tale. It can be a reflection of something central and core about a human being — a sort of Integrity Test.

How can I trust a Project Manager who lies?

I can’t — or more to the point, I won’t. Because in my world, integrity matters. A lot.

And if I give Excuse Talk a pass — in a Construction Project Manager, a student, or a breeder — I have allowed myself to join the dishonesty. Even more, when we give a pass it means we have not cared enough to invite change.

I have found that exposure of Excuse Talk can and often does result in positive — and sometimes even appreciated — changes, even though it is both hard to do and hard to hear.

And I am not just talking about other people — all of us can so easily slip into Excuse Talk mode. Sometime the one who needs us to call an Excuse Talk Alert is ourself.

There is no shame in being an imperfect human being — only in pretending the truth is something different than it is, and asking others to go along with the lie.

Hence my current lack of a Project Manager — and this blog.


This is Hal and his BFF, Abby (Sparkler). SO cute! Both of them.

Thank you, Kathy!

Thank you, Kathy!


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rePete has a better recall than most dogs.



Claire and Daisy.


Claire has kindly refrained from going into season just yet — adding in the trip to breed her on top of everything else might send me straight into unraveled.

However, she is at eight months now so it will be any day. Maybe a few days away might be a blessing — washing dishes in the bathtub is no picnic, I assure you.

Happy Thursday to ALL.