Tribe

The annual August test of the Big Sky Tracking Dog Club of Montana happened yesterday on the campus of the University of Montana.

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I was a tracklayer and so I spent both Saturday and Sunday mornings with my tracking tribe. Although those of us who were there have differences, we come together over a shared love of dogs and tracking to form a community.

It is so wonderful to be reminded that we fit in these human niches, whatever they are. Humans, no matter how introverted, are social by nature — it is how we survive. The pandemic has interrupted so many of our connection points, and while certainly there is value in pruning away some of those pre-pandemic demands, we still need connection.

I am trying to find balance between connections and safety given the Covid surge, and it is tough. Just trying to navigate this takes Little Soldiers, doesn’t it?

I wonder if one reason that masks have become a bit of a tribal identity symbol (understatement alert) is simply because the pandemic has made us so desperate for connection.

I am definitely in the Masked Tribe.

I am definitely in the Masked Tribe.

Too bad we cannot all be connected by a shared sense of love and responsibility to — and for — each other.

Animals like their tribes as well. I imagine it is not easy to live in a world where the language, culture, customs, expectations are all so different than our hard wiring. When you are the only one like you — how hard would that be?

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There is comfort in likeness. Familiarity feels like home.

Can you tell which is Pozy and which is Capella?

Can you tell which is Pozy and which is Capella?

We all need that — even in a pandemic. We just need to do it safely so that our tribes survive.

You matter. Stay safe. And have a terrific day.

Life with Dogs (and Children): Wally Update

Dogs have a lot to teach us. I believe that. Yesterday I did a webinar about this very topic.

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But in order for the lessons to be positive and prosocial ones, there needs to be a skillful adult translator between the dog and the children. This is why I am so very careful about the placement of puppies in homes with children — because not every parent has the willingness, time, and skill set to be that translator.

When an adult caregiver understands the family dog as an object lesson in responsibility, effective communication, loyalty, and so many other qualities that enhance adulting, things go well for the dog. In the absence of an intentional adult, children may well learn maladaptive life skills through their experiences with the disposable, unimportant family dog — and the dog suffers.

Moonshadow Wally lives with children because their mom, Samantha, is one of those skillful translators who — with her Dear Husband — is raising children and a puppy in mindful, intentional ways.

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Moonshadow Wally Montana

Samantha sends us this report on now six-month-old Wally Montana:

He’s truly the most loving puppy we have ever known…so eager to please, loves people, and so happy to be loved on by everyone! He hasn’t met a stranger, and will gladly accept love and belly rubs from every person we meet.

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He’s a great (ravenous!) eater, and will come running when he hears the word treat. He LOVES his stuffed animals, and takes one outside with him every morning when he goes out to to potty.

He has quickly become acquainted with every air vent in the house, and prefers to lay on the cold bricks in front of the fireplace in the family room. We might keep the air conditioning a little colder, just for him. ;)

He’s obedient, and attentive, and just the very best boy. We can’t imagine life without him and we are so happy he’s ours! We just all love him more than we could ever express.

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Thank you, Samantha! Wally is adorable — and lucky.

Every puppy I place in a home with children is there because I believe the adults have that translator mindset. They understand that the life of the family dog is a reflection of the skills, values, and attributes they hope to instill in their children. I am happy to contribute a puppy to this type of family because I know the dog will have a wonderful life, and I will have the absolute joy of watching terrific children grow into amazing adults. #winwin